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One More Goodbye

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One More Goodbye

Time & Distance: The Love Story of Nancy & Frank: Book III, Chapter 1 begins with Frank surprising me by coming home from Vietnam for a two week R&R. Frank and I had been apart for six months with our only communication being through the letters that we wrote to each other. The two weeks of Frank’s R&R would go by too quickly, and then we found ourselves in Houston at the airport saying goodbye again. Today, I reshared Chapter 1 from Time & Distance, titled Two Weeks of Heaven in a post on Facebook and Twitter.  After rereading the chapter myself and listening to Ed...

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And Now You Know

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And Now You Know

After being married to my soulmate, Frank, for twenty-nine years, on January 30, 1997, I suddenly became a widow. At the time of Frank’s sudden death, we owned and operated a Florist together in Bay City, Texas, and Frank also worked full time for Phillips 66 Refinery in Old Ocean, Texas. Frank and I lived in Sweeny, Texas, which is located about twenty-two miles from Bay City. Even though loving owning the florist and designing flowers, in the Summer of 1998, I decided to sale the florist, which would allow me to be closer to our home. Two weeks after selling the Florist, I was contacted...

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The Cedar Chest

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The Cedar Chest

I am a unique, cedar chest.  My purpose is to keep priceless treasures safe and secure. Although other woods may grace my outside, inside, cedarwood lines my inner walls, bottom, and lid.  Cedarwood is a natural preservative which protects by keeping out moths and other insects. In 1964, a young woman became my new owner. She refinished my exterior, changing the color to an antique blue, and I became her hope chest. The young woman would always keep me against the footboard of her bed.  Periodically, my lid opened, and she placed unique treasures inside my cedar walls.  Happiness was all...

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I Am Being Invaded

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I Am Being Invaded

Well, the Widow is under attack.  Not by just one invader, but several! The invasion started with lots and lots of rain. I welcomed the first six inches, but after the next ten inches, I knew that there would be an invasion of one culprit, the bigger than bats divebombing Mosquitoes. As expected, the Mosquitoes came. They hovered under the trees during the day time, so they could divebomb me if when I walked outside to sit in the shade. At night they thrilled at swarming around the doors, to trap me inside the house and act as watchdogs to keep all visitors at bay.  In retaliation, I bought...

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Fiction, Non-fiction, & A Memoir

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Fiction, Non-fiction, & A Memoir

For some strange reason, as I tried to sleep last night, my mind decided to think about the difference between the writing of Fiction, Non-Fiction, or a Memoir.  I have no idea why my brain decided to think about that, but half the time, I am not in control of what my mind thinks about or when it works. What is the writing of Fiction? Is it just made up by the crafty brilliant minds of authors, or is it real life experiences hidden in the embellishment of fiction to hide the truth and protect the original characters. Many writers have said that all Fiction has some truth in it. Other writers...

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Humbled & Thankful

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Humbled & Thankful

Today is Wednesday, May 8th, 2019. Fifty-one years ago on Wednesday on May 8th, 1968 a young man and a young woman stood at the front of the church confessing their love for each other and exchanging their marriage vowels in front of their families, friends, and God. That day in Van Vleck, Texas at the Methodist Church  Nancy Blakley and Frank Henderson became Mr. & Mrs. Loren Frank Henderson, Jr. As you all know, I am in the process of writing a Memoir of Frank and my love story.  Two books have been published and are available as autographed books to purchase on this website. Today, on...

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Meme Bought Silly String

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Meme Bought Silly String

First of all, who is Meme?  The name Meme is what my first Grandson gave me when he was little.  When he would ask me for something, it would come out as “Me. Me.” Since I always answered that by giving him something, my name to him became Meme.  So from then on all of my Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren have called me, Meme, at least to my face.  Lord knows what else they might call me when I’m not around, but then the possibilities are far too many to imagine. My Youngest Great Grandson turned one on May 1, 2019, and a birthday party was held for him April 28, 2019....

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Where’d My Menu Go?

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Where’d My Menu Go?

Well now, it has been a while since the Widow let you know what she has been up to, but you can believe that it has all been days of learning how not to do things. Nancy Lou has been reading and editing, War & Commitment:  The Love Story of Nancy & Frank: Book II, but while doing that, she has been writing new chapters on this website of the fourth book of the Memoir. This widow-woman does not use a wireless mouse to move the pointer arrow around the screen.  Instead, Nancy Lou uses her pointer finger to scroll around on the computer dumafloche below the keys on the keyboard. ...

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A Priceless Letter

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A Priceless Letter

When I checked the mail on Monday, March 25, 2019, I had received an extraordinary piece of mail.  After opening the envelope and reading a message written in cursive writing inside the card, it moved me to tears. Many years ago, probably sixty-one years to be exact, I attended elementary school in Levelland, Texas. My second-grade teacher’s name was Mrs. Chaffin.  Of course, I had not thought about second-grade for many years. A few weeks back my Mom called me to tell me that she needed some more of my books.  She informed me that Mrs. Chaffin had seen my book lying on a table in the...

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Dealing With Facebook Boosts & Bots

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Dealing With Facebook Boosts & Bots

What is happening with these Facebook Robots? What has happened to the idea of being able to talk to real people on the phone when a problem arises?  Robots, which I refer to as Bots, have taken over nearly every business, especially on Facebook, when we try to make human connections and sure, the Bots ask you some questions then tell you which number you need to push to get to another Bot which in turn asks you more questions with other numbers you can select. If you can not get the right question, then you are put on hold for an associate to answer your questions.  Usually, the associate...

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Winterizing the House

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Winterizing the House

What an eventful week for me, so I am not surprised unbeknownst to me, that a real cold front is on the way.  With the weather being severely crazy in south Texas this winter, going from hot to cold then back to hot then cold again in less than twenty-four hours, I just put off doing the close in around the house thangy. The problem is that my house has a pier and beam base which means it sits up off of the ground.  Of course, not high enough off of the ground for an average size person to crawl under it.  Why would that be logical? Also, all of the water pipes are under my house, not in the...

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What’s Going On Here?

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What’s Going On Here?

As you all know, I have been spending a lot of time typing on a Memoir but I also like to do Widow’s Blogs, some funny, some just thoughts. Well, here’s the deal, I decided the best place for me to write the Memoir and Blogs was to relocate my computer to a table in my game room.  The game room was a large detached garage which we converted to an apartment then later took out a wall to make one large room as a game room and it also has a full kitchen and bathroom. My husband’s full-size pool table sits in the middle of this room.  It also has a treadmill, weight machine,...

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Are There Secrets to the Polar Plunge?

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Are There Secrets to the Polar Plunge?

I watched several videos January 1st. shared on Facebook by The Geneva Shore Report, a newspaper based in the town of Lake Geneva, Wisconsin. These videos were of the crowds of people in Lake Geneva getting ready then actually doing the annual Polar Plunge. Even though I live in Texas, I love this newspaper.   They share the news, weather, and special happenings of their town in videos daily and in their paper published once a week in print and online. The newspaper is owned by James Strauss who is a gifted author of many books and totally admired by his readers.  He can absolutely write...

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What Was I Thinking?

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What Was I Thinking?

People are gonna quit inviting me places.  I have no doubt that this is true unless they are in for some new comic relief of some kind. Being sixty-nine years old has had its challenges but I have tried to make sure that others do not know the absolutely dumb things I do.   When you get my age you realize that everyone is looking for those telltale signs of dementia.  Of course, in my case, I have never remembered names, just faces, so that should be acceptable for a while. I have a system that helps though, it’s called the ABC system.  To use this system, you just start saying the...

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Some Assembly Required, Really?

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Some Assembly Required, Really?

What does the word “some” mean?  Unknown or unspecified?  Evidently, “some assembly required” has changed since I last put something together. Maybe I expect too much or don’t understand how it all works.  Why would you ship a product in a box that is big enough for it to be fully assembled, if it needs to be put together?  Just shove those pieces in a smaller box! The picture of the play kitchen I ordered looked like a “one-piecer” to me.  Dang thangy is made of plastic, just make a mold big enough for the whole “shebang” and pour in the...

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Why You Can’t Take Me Anywhere

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Why You Can’t Take Me Anywhere

Anyone who knows me knows that I see the humor in everything and maybe laugh out loud when it shouldn’t happen. Sometimes, I don’t start out trying to be funny but then it just happens. A couple of days ago, it happened, not just once but every time a thought came into my head and believe me, thoughts don’t just happen there very often. Okay, my brother-in-law and his wife invited me to take a trip up the country to attend a funeral.  Bless their hearts, they had no idea what they were in for.  Normally, they share a quiet ride together when they take road trips, but this...

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My Bubble Wrapped Tree

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My Bubble Wrapped Tree

Well now, I bought a new Artificial Christmas Tree this year and it arrived today. The last two years I have had a chopped down real Christmas tree. The artificial tree I had before the last two years, I purchased many years ago and it was absolutely Beautiful. Meanwhile back to the arrival of my new tree.  UPS Dude skid to a stop in front of my house a few hours ago but before I could get to the door from the couch, probably four steps, the Dude set the tree box down in front of my clear glass storm door then literally ran back to the UPS truck. Fat chance he was gonna help me carry it into...

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My Mr. Christmas

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My Mr. Christmas

At Thanksgiving each year, memories flood into my mind of the beautiful man I call, Mr. Christmas. My Mr. Christmas was a special person all year long but from Thanksgiving Day until  New Year’s  Eve Day, he was a shining light in more ways than you can imagine.  Let’s just say that the character Clark, played by Chevy Chase, in Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation could have been cloned from my Mr. Christmas. Mr. Christmas spent hours drawing up a diagram of where he wanted to place lights on the outside of our home.  The lights were the big old-timey multicolored on green wire...

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New Landline Phone

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New Landline Phone

What do I have on my mind? >Well, it could have something to do with wanting to absolutely walk outside and toss the new home landline phone handsets into the road then watch a car run over them.  Oops! See, I do have the patience to watch them get shattered but not the patience to set them up.  After all, I have been setting up the old landline phone for at least ten years. Why don’t they make these things like cellphones where you touch ’em to each other like they’re mating then all of the info transfers?   Is there a problem with that technology?  Surely some two-year-old out there...

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Writing a True Love Memoir

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Writing a True Love Memoir

When you are writing a Memoir about a true love shared with your soulmate, it can be the most beautiful experience but it can be heartbreaking at times. Frank and I married at age eighteen.  We were married for nearly twenty-nine years when suddenly he was struck ill and died within six days of that illness at the age of forty-seven. While writing our love story and remembering the fun times we had together, I enter into a time machine going back to that period.   Actually, I see us together as if a spectator.  Actually, the best way I can describe this would be to compare it to the same...

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Yep, Gonna Build an Outhouse

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Yep, Gonna Build an Outhouse

Dagnabbit!  What have we done with simplification?  Replacing the parts of the inside of a toilet tank have gotten way too complicated. When I was around eight years old, back in the dinosaur days, my Grandparents had an Outhouse.  It was really cool (well not in the summer) and actually was a four-holer.  Although, I never understood why four people would want to be in there together.   Inside the Outhouse, there was a Sears and Roebuck catalog. You could look at this outdated catalog or use it for its real purpose there.   There was a true art to taking a page from that catalog...

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Give Me a Sprain

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Give Me a Sprain

Well now, yesterday October 6, 2018, I turned 69 years old.  Funny thing about 69, if you flip it over it is still 69. I do not have a problem turning 69 and as a matter of fact, have not had a problem turning any age as I got to it.  Age is a mindset if you don’t mind it really doesn’t matter, just stay away from lying mirrors.  I cover mine with sheets, walk quickly by them, or don’t wear my glasses as I look in them.  It’s all a no-brainer, just use your imagination. Anyway, back to yesterday, I had an awesome morning of sitting and drinking coffee on my patio then...

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I Want to be Reminded of Lilacs

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I Want to be Reminded of Lilacs

Why would I want to be reminded of Lilacs? What do they symbolize and do their colors have special meanings? Actually, I did not know a lot about these beautiful flowers and what they symbolize until a friend commented on a blog I wrote named,  My Soulmate Love for Eternity. In this blog, I spoke of the beauty of having a soulmate, a real deep, pure love. A love where we became so close to one another that we had grown like one strand of tightly woven yarn, having one heart and soul.  A love that has transcended through all time, all dimensions, and shared for eternity. A love that so...

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What is that Green Smog?

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What is that Green Smog?

All parents need to read this informative blog. This particular information is not passed on to other parents because of its delicate nature and unusual fear it evokes. It is totally unbelievable and unexpected that it could happen to you.  The only way to prevent this from happening to you as a parent would be to just not have children at all, send them off to boarding school at a young age of twelve for seven years, or adopt them at the age of twenty.   Believe me, when it happens to you, you will think about the options you could have chosen. Okay, here’s the deal.  How you may have...

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Responsibility is it Declining?

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Responsibility is it Declining?

While writing a new chapter on my website called, “Next Stop is Okinawa”, many questions came to my mind as I was typing about a job which I had worked at prior to leaving Texas for Okinawa. While describing my job requirements and responsibilities while working as a  grocery cashier/checker at HEB in 1969, I realized that many young people in 2018 would find those job requirements and responsibilities quite challenging and maybe a little bit enslaving. Having these thoughts running through my mind,  led me to wonder about the changes that modern technology has made in the world,...

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Talented, Beautiful, Successful

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Talented, Beautiful, Successful

I believe God put a lot of thought into creating each of us while making us all unique, special and different. Also, I think that He gave us all a special purpose that is designed just for us to fulfill while we are living in the flesh. It is easy to look around and want to be that somebody else who we might think is more talented, more beautiful, or more successful. When we see the talents of others and compare them to our own, is it a fair comparison?  I remember as a young woman thinking how others around me seemed so much more talented in various ways than I was but some of them did not...

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Really, A Referral Needed?

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Really, A Referral Needed?

Last week I suddenly developed a sore throat. I decided that it could be healed with a little warm salt water gargling then throat lozenges and eventually just go away. I did fairly well for a day or two then the fever hit with chills and body aches.  Of course, this all happened late evening on Friday when the Doctor’s office was closed.  Tylenol became my best friend that evening and night with a lot of gargling the trusted warm salt water. The next morning, my sister-in-law, Cindy, called on another matter then asked how I was doing.  I told her what was going on with my throat and...

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Cutting Your Hair, Widow’s Blog

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Cutting Your Hair, Widow’s Blog

While heading to the treadmill this morning, I decided to stop a minute, go into the bathroom, and just trim my bangs a little because I was tired of them tickling my eyebrows. Being fully dressed in my sports bra, shirt, shorts, socks, and tennis shoes was not a problem because it was just gonna be a quick trim of my bangs.  There was absolutely no reason to worry about getting hair on me. Of course, I also wore my “sweet” Artificial Intelligent Fitbit on my arm, so it could record my every move then give me those subliminal, encouraging messages it runs across its “sweet...

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Read First Then Look at the Picture

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Read First Then Look at the Picture

Sometimes something happens that totally takes me backward a few steps just for a moment in the mystery of wonderment. This type of “thang” would instantly turn some peoples faces red, a fire would come from their eyes and they would get really upset.  Not me. When I am totally surprised by nonreality of something I look for the humor in it first.  After all some kinda way it has to be funny. Here’s the deal, this morning I got up early to post a chapter of my book on my Nancy Lou Henderson Facebook page titled   Apartment, Snoopy, Corncob Pipe.  The picture I chose for...

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Let’s Talk About Fitbit Again

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Let’s Talk About Fitbit Again

Well, I have decided to write about the Fitbit again.  Why?  The Fitbit may be a little more complex and mysterious than the instructions tell us all. When I bought my Fitbit, it already had a little battery charge. After my Grandson plugged it into the electric socket to get more charge, it charged in what seemed like seconds.   I thought that was pretty cool at the time because most batteried things take a while to charge. My Fitbit takes my pulse, counts my steps, keeps the time, lets me see text messages scroll across quickly and tells me how far I have walked.  All of that is just great...

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Prayer, Purpose, Faith and the Widow

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Prayer, Purpose, Faith and the Widow

For as far back as I can remember God has made His presence known to me.  As a very small child, I remember talking to Him and feeling the warmth of His touch. My true heartfelt belief is that we are all born into this world remembering God because we have just come from His loving arms uninhibited, innocence, and still feel His lingering, loving, and protective care which stays with us.  Small children are not worried about what others think which enables them to speak openly about God. I had the absolute privilege and God-given gift to get to teach a Sunday School class for two and...

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Fitbit and Me, DIY Widow’s Blog

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Fitbit and Me, DIY Widow’s Blog

While out shopping with my Daughter-in-law and Grandson a few days ago, a conversation came up about getting fit.  Having always been a person who likes to workout, I have gotten lax on doing just that. Since I have started sharing blogs and chapters of the book I am writing on this website, my exercise routine has suffered some, make that close to “nil”.  I seem to get lost in writing and learning about how this website works then realize I have been sitting in front of the computer for hours.  Seems the only things getting exercise are my fingers. Anyway, the discussion got...

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Medicare Paperwork, DIY Widow

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Medicare Paperwork, DIY Widow

My  Doctor’s office called then told me they needed me to make an appointment to fill out some paperwork for Medicare. Since it had been over a year since having been to the Doctor, I decided to “kill two birds with one stone”, (which is only a saying, I do not kill birds) and made the appointment. After arriving at the Doctors office and after waiting a short time in the waiting room, my name was called to go back to a private room.  On the way, the young lady who was escorting me stopped at the “Lying Weight” scale to get my weight.  I told her, “I...

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Have I Lost My Memory, DIY Widow

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Have I Lost My Memory, DIY Widow

Sometimes as we get older we forget the stages that our adult children went through as they were growing up.  I think you could compare forgetting those stages to the pain of childbirth which is something that women choose to forget or there would not be the decision to have more children. Something I do remember is traveling in a car with our child back in the day when there were no car seats, booster seats, and seatbelts.  I am not knocking those inventions because they are very needed for safety and prevent deaths but just remembering when we didn’t have them. I own a Ford...

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What’s Going On?, DIY Widow

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What’s Going On?, DIY Widow

What Has Happen with My Generation? I know every older generation thinks the next younger generation has gone absolutely “bat crazy” and not responsible but that is not really true. Every generation has its own music, new electronics, cars, movies, and more which is just okay with me.  It just means as a world we are moving forward in our ability to think and the intelligence to learn, not backward. My generation’s job is supposed to be the fall-back backbone for the younger generations by making sure we instill values of great humanity, consideration for others, kindness...

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Thoughts On Weddings, DIY Widow

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Thoughts On Weddings, DIY Widow

What Is Really Important? As I am typing a new chapter called, Going to the Chapel, about my own Wedding which can be found on this website under Love Letters from the Heart,  I began wondering just what is really the most important thing about anyone’s Wedding?  So, I decided it was time to write a blog about it. I understand that everyone wants to have a very special and memorable wedding but to what extent and cost.  Does the Bride’s Dad and Mom or the Groom’s Dad and Mom have to go broke?  What if a couple is paying for their own Wedding,  are they to start their...

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