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I Love You, Frank

Posted by Nancy Lou Henderson in Vietnam Letters | 4 comments

Finally, we were in communication with each other. Of course, it would be a slow process, but it was the best we had. I would not know Frank received my letters until sometime after the 15th of February, but we kept writing. We both had so many questions about what was going on with each other. Frank wrote a letter many days before Valentine’s Day, asking his folks to buy flowers and candy for me. Days before Valentine’s Day, I had mailed his Valentine’s Card and sent a box full of things for him to munch on. Because we knew how long the mail took to reach each other,...

Guard Duty and Cookies

Posted by Nancy Lou Henderson in Vietnam Letters | 4 comments

Frank was finally receiving my letters and boxes. Finally, he could begin to realize that there was no need to worry about who would always own my heart and soul. Loneliness through separation from the person you truly love added to being in a war with so much uncertainty of what the next day may bring can cause a person to think of the worst of what could happen instead of the truth that they know inside them. My biggest worry was for Frank’s health and safety. I was so terrified of something happening to him and him not returning to me alive. Loving Frank with all of my heart and...

Helping Me Get Up

Posted by Nancy Lou Henderson in Vietnam Letters | 10 comments

Frank wanted me to tell him all of my feelings, upsets, and worries. It would be hard for us to hold back sharing those things with each other because we only confided in each other. We knew that sharing these things would upset each other because we were not in a position to help each other. Sometimes we were strong enough to hold back our upsets and emotions when writing to each other but many times we failed. On March 1, 1971, I failed miserably wallering in self-pity while writing a letter to Frank but he loved me so much that he would not let me sink into depression and self-pity. ...

“Just a Touch of Magic”

Posted by Nancy Lou Henderson in Vietnam Letters | 14 comments

Frank and I had been separated before, ten weeks while he was in Basic Training, two weeks after we married, and three months before I arrived in Okinawa but this separation was different. The difference in this separation was fear. Fear of losing your soulmate, the person who owned your heart and soul. Frank was in a war zone where anything could happen at any moment. We were both aware of that possibility every moment of every day. Music was always a big part of our lives. We played music all of the time and knew the words to most of the songs on the radio. The music from the 60s and...

A Haircut & Sp5

Posted by Nancy Lou Henderson in Vietnam Letters | 8 comments

Loneliness and depression are emotions that can be controlled for short periods of time then they can hit so deeply that they can send you spiraling into a deep pit. Knowing how to handle loneliness and depression requires lots of willpower and personal strength. Frank and I were truly in love, truly devoted to each other, and really knew each other. We knew exactly how to help each other out of these emotions. The only problem was the time it took letters to reach each other, but at times, our deep connection to each other would have us feel each other’s feelings, and a letter...